Does the Black Church Keep Black Women Single?

Who said I was single?
How about we all just mind
our own business.

The only way to answer that question is to consider what the Black Church actually teaches.

These are the main lessons the Black Church teaches regarding relationships.

Love God first. Ummm, this is what Christians (which means followers of Christ) are supposed to do. Where Black people are as a people should never allow any Christian to demote Him below its or their own personal issues. Its when God is put on the backburner that things start to unravel. Things that make you go hmmm.
 

Marry A Christian (with character)

This is Biblically correct. The Black Church is still (say it with me) a church. It could pose some real

problems if two people are wed and they have two different compasses (holy books) with some

contradictory messages about love, marriage, children, and God. The best way not to marry someone is not to date them in the first place.  It is Black women's fault that so many Black men don't place a premium on their spiritual life? No. If anything, based on this principle, this group (saved Black women) should be the first to consider marrying interracially as the Scriptures has no problem with interracial marriage as we know it. If anything, the Bible's definition is different than our 20th century Black American theology. In the Old Testament, it was two races where God was concerned (Jews and Gentiles) and they were not to intermarry. When Christ came, it was Christians as one group and non-believers as another group.  And in this way, interracial marriage was/is frowned upon because the two tend to have differing views about major issues. 

You are to only have sex with your spouse.
This is also Biblically correct. Sex is a spiritual act as much as a physical act. Did you know the word hymn and hymen come from the same word in the Greek which signifies reaching a higher level of intimacy?  Sex (and worship) should not be taken lightly. Every person over 25 knows exactly what I'm talking about. Let's be real. If some Black people were more discriminate about who they gave their bodies to we would not have the OOW rates and the STD rates that we are currently experiencing.

Don't chase a man. 
This is Biblically correct as well. In most courtships in Scripture, it was the man who stepped forward and said I want her. 

Submit to your husband. This in a lot of ways is connected to marrying someone who is saved and has character in the first place. Its easy to submit to a man who has some sense and who is acting right. Its a whole 'nother story when he does not believe what you believe about a lot of key issues including how he is to treat his wife.

Don't spend your singleness mulling over not having a man. Live your life so when a man steps forward

 you have something to add. Contentment is the best beauty treatment. The major courtships of the Bible happened when the woman was going along minding her own business. If you don't get married, you have lived a full life and can count your blessings that you didn't marry a frog.  Nothing wrong there.

Avoid divorce at all costs because God hates it. I think everyone would agree that divorce should be the last thing to consider.

I don't think the Black Church likes to keep Black women single so they can fill their congregations, ministries, or coffers. I think it (as any church should) attempts to promote morality and raise consciousness about how to live better. If raising people's consciousness and encouraging a higher standard of living is seen as keeping Black women single, that says something about Black men and the Black women who also believe this.

And why are unsaved/unchurched women still single and having the same issues when it comes to relationships?

Things that make you go hmmm.