Can't Find Love? Here's Why!

Finding the right person is difficult no matter who you are. Marnie Nir over at Huffingtonpost.com offers up a blunt serving of 'get yo' ish together' to get the love you want. She maintains (and I agree) that most people's relationship issues stem from themselves. She writes,

We often quote and blame statistics on why we don't have what we want instead of doing the real work to get what we want. If you wanted a great body, you would change your eating habits and workout, right? Complaining only burns so many calories. When it comes to love, people don't think there is any work to do. They think love should happen to them like it does in the movies. It doesn't. Living in a fantasy world when it comes to love will only keep you from finding it.

Have you ever noticed that you date the same kind of guy or girl? Are you having the same relationship over and over with different people? Have many of your relationships fallen apart for similar reasons? That's because you haven't looked at yourself and who you are in a relationship. You've been sitting on the sidelines complaining about your past and current dating failures without doing anything about it.

I had a client who theorized that men didn't find her attractive. But when we went through her dating history, we saw that she had dated asexual men and even a few men her friends thought might be gay. By dating asexual men, she got to stay doe-eyed and victimized.

It wasn't until my client examined her past that she saw she dated men she wasn't particularly attracted to and who were not attracted to her. Now she tells her story differently. She actually laughs at how she was the real culprit. She is not an anomaly -- it's what we all do. We all have theories that we are out to prove and that hold us back from true love.

She offers 5 steps to achieving the love you desire. Check out the full article here.